Self-love on Valentine's day

Valentine’s Day is around the corner. Let us get a new perspective on Valentine’s Day – “Self-Love”.

Self-love on Valentine’s Day is not a common theme but is certainly very important. Single, or taken, on this Valentine’s Day, love yourself a little more.

Celebration of Self-love on Valentine’s Day couldn’t have been more refreshing. Keep reading 🙂 


With Valentine’s Day around the corner, a lot of us are seeking love. Sometimes in the eyes of your partner, or from someone special that smiles at you, compliments you and adores you.

We either seek happiness from people who are we attracted to or are in constant search of such people. But we never seek it from ourselves. Especially for women, the task of self-love doesn’t come so easily!  

The other day, I was talking to a friend and we got into a conversation about her being single vis-a-vis upcoming love-fest (read Valentine’s Day), how everything suddenly gets lovey-dovey, how flowers and chocolates fly off shelves and how most of the restaurants and movie theatres fill.

When cupids are decorating every storefront, and social media is filled with couple posts, it’s easy to wonder a lot of things – especially when you are single.  

I have always felt that “Valentine’s Day” is a complicated day. Either you hate it or love it, either you believe it or simply do not care about it. There are so many opinions about this day, isn’t it?

I strongly feel that knowingly-unknowingly; we have been conditioned to look outside of ourselves for all important things in our life, mainly, for that “unconditional love”. We are constantly looking for someone to love us and appreciate us. Amidst “finding the one” or “being with the one” to find happiness in life, an important concept that doesn’t receive enough attention is – the concept of self-love.

No, I am not saying looking out for “love” isn’t natural. Of course, it is very much a human thing to do. We all want to be loved by someone. That someone can be your partner, friends, family or anybody.

Having said that, I also strongly believe, that until we become our own steady source of love, we will end up in relationships or keep looking for someone else to give us everything that we aren’t able to give to ourselves.   

“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first” ~ Charles Bukowski


If you guys know me, I am a sucker for “Self-love”, something that I learnt over a period of time through some life experiences. I agree that this “Valentine’s day” is geared towards couple relationships; however, on this day, how about showing love to a very important person- ME? After all, self-love is as important as having a love for another.

If Valentine’s Day is the “Day of love”, isn’t this the perfect time to love yourself a little more fiercely? To remind yourself how strong, spirited and independent you are?

On this Valentine’s Day, consider putting all your energy into the relationship that you have with yourself.

Let us try some of these things on this Valentine’s Day:

Indulge yourself: 

Gift yourself some chocolates or pamper yourself with spa, get your hair done! Give yourself the admiration it deserves.

Buy yourself a gift: 

Valentine’s Day is a great reason to buy yourself some gifts that you wished someone else would get you. If anyone deserves it, it is YOU.

We have no problem in buying gifts for others guilt-free, so we shouldn’t have a problem splurging a little on ourselves too!

Go ahead and buy that pretty dress you have been eyeing on to!

Order your favourite food

What’s for dinner? is a question that haunts me every day! Order whatever you want to! Take the night off from cooking or evening planning a meal.

Allow yourself your guilty pleasures.

Write a letter to yourself

Have you given a thought about this? Trust me, there’s something about writing your thoughts out in a piece of paper that makes it so much real.

Taking the time to write about you to yourself is a step to cultivate self-love. List down things you admire about yourself and you are thankful for.

Words are powerful and you deserve the best.

Treat yourself 

Remember, dates are not exclusive for couples, there’s nothing wrong in enjoying your company and having alone time with yourself. There are so many reasons to love your own company

If you are single, take your loud and proud single out on a date. Throw away those inhibitions out of the window and take yourself out on a date. There should be no shame around being single on Valentine’s Day.

These little reminders to ourselves can help us kick-out negative thoughts and focus on self-love. Yeah, all this may sound cheesy, but then who doesn’t like cheese? 🙂

So, what is self-love? For me, self-love has become that freedom- freedom to reserve time for myself, freedom to appreciate myself, freedom to accept my flaws, freedom to consider what brings joy to my life, freedom to respect my needs, freedom to have my own voice, freedom to explore the other side of my fear, freedom to believe I am worthy, and freedom to trust myself.


  • If you’re single, remind yourself that you love you! If you are taken, don’t forget to love yourself in the process of loving someone else. Because, if you don’t love yourself, who will? If you weren’t your biggest supporter, why would anyone else cheer you up?
  • Love comes in all forms; it’s all around you. Keep your eyes open and just cherish the present moments.
  • Love yourself, on Valentine’s Day and always!

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do” ~ Brene Brown

This Valentine’s Day, its time to choose YOU. 

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